Before we explore why you and your family are struggling, let's look at what it means to be a woman and mom in today's very different world!

1.   Find a Lifelong Roommate:  As you enter your mid-20s, you'll begin to feel pressure to find a
     roommate for life.  You and this partner will need to agree (roughly 80% of the time) on the
     many life aspects needed to make this work, and for it to be enjoyable.

2.  Make Big Purchases:  Initially, you'll spend upwards of half a million dollars on a home and
     other necessities to begin your life together.  Navigating this properly will be essential.

3.  Have Kids:  Soon, society will strongly encourage you to have at least two children who will
     need your constant physical, emotional, and psychological attention and support for the first
     25 years of their lives (and likely beyond).
 
4.  Parent Comprehensively:  Each child will be different, requiring unique types of care and
     interventions.  You and your partner will need to agree (roughly 80% of the time) on how to
     handle these differences, as well as the vital developmental needs we now know children     
     require... especially if one has special needs (a common experience in today's family).

5.  Maintain Your Home:  You'll use several hours each week meeting the many needs of your
     home and property.  If not, you'll live in constant clutter, disarray, and disorganization.

6.  Manage FOMO:  Society will encourage you to offer everything to yourselves and your kids.
     Despite your better judgment, you'll feel pressure to keep up with the unlimited options
     constantly advertised at your family's fingertips. You'll put your kids in many expensive
     activities with demanding and unapologetic schedules, and then feel pressure to attend
     each one so you're regarded as a 'good mother'.

7.  Monitor Technology:  You'll 'police' crazy amounts of (often dangerous) information offered
     to you and your developing children each day.  You'll do your best with this, despite the fact
     that you didn't grow up with this, and can't keep up with the constant technology advances.

8.  Perform Other Obligations:  Besides the needs of your immediate family, you'll manage the
     relationships with your friends, your children's friends, extended family members, and maybe
     the aging parents of you and your partner.

9.  Work Full-Time:  To afford all of the above, both you and your partner will likely need to work          full-time jobs outside the home (jobs that may no longer satisfy you, and also come with their
     own demands and drama).

10.  Perform Unequal Workloads:  Even though you and your partner will agree to share these
      responsibilities equally, research still shows that women do more of the work - especially the
      invisible tasks involving emotional labour, school life, child care, and detailed planning. 
      Despite this, you'll be expected to do this without complaint, while also looking good, feeling
      good, and being ready for sex at least once a week.

11.   Overcompensate for Your Past: If you had a difficult or traumatic childhood, you'll want to
      over-nurture or over-protect your kids to make sure they don't go through what you did.  Yet,
      despite doing triple backflips through flaming hoops for them each day, you'll feel perpetually
      under-appreciated, like it's never enough, and guilt yourself into offering more.
 
12.  Deal with High Costs:  Over 25 years, you'll navigate the millions of dollars this will cost.  You'll
      do this by accruing serious debt, working hard to get by, and/or sacrificing some important
      things you planned for when you and your partner first connected.

13.  Lack of Support:  You'll do all this within a society that is becoming less supportive and
      available, yet more focused on competition, appearances, having it all, and being the best.

14. You will always feel like there is never enough time!